If you feel that you are basically living the life of a victim in your own home, whether it's an emotional victim, or a financial victim, or sometimes a domestic violence victim or a physical victim, you may be asking yourself, "there is nothing I can do; what can I do?" Well, I'll tell you one thing you can do and you should do: if you are the victim of domestic violence, you get yourself to an attorney immediately. If you cannot afford an attorney, go the courthouse immediately. Many of the courthouses in Los Angeles County have family law self-help centers and domestic violence specialized self-help centers. In Ventura County they have this, in Orange County; domestic violence will not be tolerated in the state of California. It is the number one priority in the courthouse; not child support, not spousal support, not custody. Domestic violence; it takes priority. So if you are a victim of domestic violence, get yourself to court and get yourself some orders. You'll get them. If you can afford to hire an attorney to help you with it, do that. If you're a victim of emotional abuse or financial abuse and it's not as clear cut as what we were just talking about, it's a slightly different story. There are risks involved, financial risks and emotional risks, in going through a divorce with a spouse who is unpredictable and somebody who you're afraid of. If you are sitting at home scared to death of what's going to happen, you're not thinking as clearly as you could and you really need someone to help you. An experienced family law attorney can do that for you. Even if you don't have the money to get started, if there's money out there and if there's money to be found, an experienced attorney with the help of the court should be able to get it for you to get you into court so that you can get relief. And if you're afraid that your spouse is going to sell all the property the minute you file for divorce, there are even Automatic Temporary Restraining Orders that go into effect once your spouse is served with the divorce Petition. They are effective upon you and they are effective upon the other person as well. They can't cancel insurance, they can't cancel bank accounts, they can't transfer assets, so there are protections that the system has developed for people in your position. You're not alone and there is help out there for you.