You know when somebody makes the decision to file for divorce, it's very possibly one the biggest decisions that they will ever make. And an awful lot of consideration comes into it, and as you well know, it doesn't come easy. A lot of people are afraid to file for divorce because they feel that they're going to have to go to court, they're going to have to air all of their dirty laundry in a public forum and they don't want to do that. But in truth, not every divorce has to end up in trial in court in front of the world. An awful lot of divorces, in fact the vast majority of them, resolve with a settlement agreement; in fact it's called a Marital Settlement Agreement. We see these in Los Angeles County and in Ventura County and throughout the state of California. It is in fact a contract, an agreement, that resolves the marital issues and settles them, hence the name Marital Settlement Agreement. And these issues will include everything: child custody, child visitation, child support, spousal support, attorney's fees, division of property, valuation of businesses, everything is dealt with in the separation agreement. And if you go to see an attorney, a family lawyer, they will help you work this out. There is also an awful lot of information out on the internet that deals with this subject, and what you really need to keep in mind is this: when you feel that the time is right for you to get a divorce, you don't need to be afraid of the process. What you do need to do is if you have the ability and the opportunity is try to consult with an experienced family law attorney to help you through it because in a perfect world, what you're going to end up with is a Marital Settlement Agreement: the opportunity for you and your soon to be ex-spouse to come together, work together, and resolve your differences so that you can move on, free of the emotional baggage associated with the event that you just went through.
Every resolution-minded divorce attorney in the state of California in general, in the county of Los Angeles, in the county of Ventura, we all approach the resolution of this conflict with a desire to achieve settlement and compromise, not with a desire to beat the other side into submission. What we try to achieve is an opportunity for the husband and the wife, for the husband and the husband, for the wife and the wife, to be able to resolve their differences between them, put it down on paper, and move forward in calmness and peacefulness, especially if you have children.