Pause for a moment and take a deep breath. As you exhale, forget about how much you despise your ex. Forget about the petty things you could do to get back at him or her. Forget about alimony, child support, and the new person you have seen them with. Instead, think of the children you had with this person. Focus your thoughts on what is best for them, now that their lives have been permanently changed by the divorce. In the aftermath of the split, you can ensure stability in their lives by putting your own feelings aside and acting in the children's best interests.