Many single parents find that full custody can be a full-time job. It can become stressful to the point where it may seem impossible to manage. You cannot impose involvement upon your spouse without a court order, and if you already fought for full legal custody, things can become complicated. However, it is important to ensure that your children receive the best upbringing possible, as well as maintain the quality of your life. A stable environment can be a firm foundation for your family as you navigate your new family structure together. Talk to your spouse about increased involvement in your children's lives, explaining your concerns clearly and calmly. If they seem unresponsive to helping voluntarily, legal action may be necessary.
Your children will undoubtedly question your reasons for divorce. This process, while one of the most trying and heart-wrenching a family can ever experience, is nonetheless a common experience. In cases of infidelity, though, emotions and confusion can reach toxic levels for everyone in the family. Because of this, you may wish to avoid divulging these facts to your children.
The custody agreement created at the time of your divorce represents the Court's opinion on your child's situation at the time of the divorce. Since then, you or your child may have experienced any number of changes in life. Your child will of course be older or you could have moved, changed shifts at work, any number of things might have transpired since the initial custody judgment was made. No matter the circumstance, it is likely that your custody agreement might not have foreseen many of the changes in your lives. If your child spends the majority of his or her time with your ex and your ex loses his or her job, for example, your child's future might be more challenging with that parent. Remember that the Court typically will only accept modifications to the custody judgment if there has been a finding of a change in circumstances arising out of and pertaining to custody of the child. Because the Court values stability and consistency so highly, you must be able to demonstrate a significant change in circumstances first, only to then, once that hurdle has been met, be allowed to present evidence as to what is best for your child in this context.