In any divorce where children are involved, child support is a very serious issue. Whether you are the parent paying or receiving child support, you want to ensure that your child will be provided for and receive all the support and benefits necessary for them to live a healthy and happy life. While the paying parent may feel like they get the raw end of the deal, it's important to remember that this money is not for the benefit of your ex-spouse; it's wholly for the benefit of your children.
The custody agreement created at the time of your divorce represents the Court's opinion on your child's situation at the time of the divorce. Since then, you or your child may have experienced any number of changes in life. Your child will of course be older or you could have moved, changed shifts at work, any number of things might have transpired since the initial custody judgment was made. No matter the circumstance, it is likely that your custody agreement might not have foreseen many of the changes in your lives. If your child spends the majority of his or her time with your ex and your ex loses his or her job, for example, your child's future might be more challenging with that parent. Remember that the Court typically will only accept modifications to the custody judgment if there has been a finding of a change in circumstances arising out of and pertaining to custody of the child. Because the Court values stability and consistency so highly, you must be able to demonstrate a significant change in circumstances first, only to then, once that hurdle has been met, be allowed to present evidence as to what is best for your child in this context.
If you need to relocate for any reason--work, cost of living, or just a simple new beginning--you may have difficulty renegotiating your custody agreement. If you are the sole custodial parent, or even if you share custody, and want to take your child or children with you, expect a reevaluation of the agreement. Remember that any decision made by the Court must revolve around the child's best interests. The original custody agreement reflected what the Court believed that to be at the time of divorce, and relocating could change those opinions.
Life insurance can be a key component of a divorce settlement. This type of insurance is often used to ensure that there will be enough money to support the children if the parent paying child support dies. It is a means of supporting one's children that even death cannot stop. But in order for life insurance to work one parent must have a life insurance policy. If neither parent has life insurance, there may not be a fund from which such support can be paid.
There is no question that divorce can be a truly life-altering experience. Your finances may change radically. Your last name may change. You may even choose to move to a new location, remarry, and build a new family with a new spouse.
Everything seems to get better during the summer months. The weather brightens, temperatures increase, and an entire day can be spent lounging around the pool. For divorced people summer may be an especially happy time because it often brings increased opportunities for visitation with one's children. Children can visit more freely during the summer because their days are not rigidly structured around school. This flexibility often results in longer visitation time for the parent who ordinarily sees the children less. This parent could, for example, have the chance to spend a period as long as two months with their children during the summer.
In cases of divorce, sometimes a child may come to despise one of their parents. These feelings may be the result of prodding by the other parent or it may have developed independently as a result of watching and experiencing the ravages of a divorce, or of course possibly due to a myriad of other reasons. Either way, these feelings can create a strong dislike of one parent who may be viewed by the child as flawed or having caused the divorce. This usually comes as a surprise to the "despised" parent. They likely still love the child and wish to see them. But when the affection is not mutual and this reality has fully sunk in, a parent may wonder why they are continuing to pay support for the child. Is child support really necessary when a child has expressed the desire to separate from one parent? The answer is simple: yes. Child support payments are still necessary even when a child no longer wants to see the paying parent.
A divorce does not usually spell the end of a person's ability to engage in intimate relationships. Many spouses find new partners and begin dating again after the dust of their divorce has settled. A new relationship is appealing because it gives people the chance to move beyond the painful memories of the past and begin a new chapter in their lives.
Child support is based on the assumption that paying parents have enough income to support both themselves and their children. But what if parents who once could pay support experience a drastically changed economic situation? What if they are now struggling just to support themselves? Child support payments can be modified to reflect a parent's changed income. The most common of these changes is job loss.