A child whose parents are divorcing may feel as if he needs his own lawyer-someone to articulate his feelings of confusion and sadness, someone to make his parents aware of what he needs to grow into a healthy, well-adjusted adult. While minor's counsel may be appropriate in certain situations, their job is to represent the children's best interests to the court, not the best interests of the parents. Therefore, parents must take it upon themselves to understand their children's fears and wishes and then be prepared to address them in a compassionate and child-focused manner.
Are you dealing with a spouse who is telling lies to your children? If you are, you are not alone. Unfortunately, some divorcing spouses engage in dirty, underhanded tactics. A husband, for example, may lie in court, claiming that his wife is a drug addict and incapable of looking after their children. A wife, in turn, may falsely claim that her husband abused her during the marriage and he continues to stalk her.
While your decision to obtain a divorce may be out of the question, your child may still want you and his other parent to stay together. This trying-and common-dilemma can potentially lead to animosity between you and your children, but this is not your only option. Unless your child harbors bitterness towards you or your co-parent, he or she likely wants you and your co-parent to work together peacefully. Cooperating with the other parent and taking equal responsibility for your child's life and growth will show your child that you still see him or her as an important, valuable part of your life.
When you were married, you and your spouse may have taken frequent vacations, across the country or even across the world. Your friends may have applauded your decision to expose your children to different cultures and experiences. While travel certainly has positive aspects, it can become problematic after divorce. After divorce, each parent must generally clear any travel plans ahead of time with the other parent.