One key to being a successful parent after divorce is to clearly and directly follow the law. It is never a good idea to sneak around or do anything that a court would consider illegal. Sneaky, underhanded actions can result in penalties for the parent, ranging from fines to losing custody. In an effort to understand how to act transparently, consider a post-divorce scenario where the court order (typically the Judgment) provides that the son will live with mom. He is, however, actually living with his father, even though father does not have court-ordered custody. In this case, the father is technically in violation of the divorce judgment; the new arrangement is, after all, not what the judge ordered. Even if Mom approves of the child living with Dad, the situation still lacks a judicial "stamp of approval."
Picture this: Your ex-spouse takes the children without warning and moves to a foreign country. This nightmare becomes reality for all too many parents. What do you do if your children are now thousands of miles away with your ex? Fortunately, parents are not entirely powerless in this situation. International child abduction is a serious problem that the international community has taken steps to address. Abduction is principally addressed by an international treaty titled "The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction." This treaty is a formal agreement between 73 member nations, including the United States and other nations such as the U.K., Korea, and Brazil.
Adultery is usually seen as reason to get a divorce. Spouses who have been cheated on typically feel angry and believe that continuing their marriage to their partner no longer makes sense. Still, some spouses choose to remain married even after discovering their partner's infidelity.
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage. This sequence of events was once the "norm" in our society, and many continue to follow the traditional route. A growing number of couples, however, choose (or end up with) children before marriage. If these unwed couples break up, they face the same custody and visitation issues faced by married couples.
If you are sharing parenting duties with a former spouse and desire to relocate for any reason-work, cost of living, or just a simple new beginning-you may have difficulty renegotiating your custody arrangement. Whether you have sole custody or you share custody, if you want to take your child or children with you when you move, expect a reevaluation of the custody arrangement.
Heading back to school in the fall can be a challenge for you in the wake of divorce, especially in a joint custody situation. Your child can also feel the effects of such an overwhelming change in the family unit, changes that will magnify with a new routine. There are simple steps you can take to help ease your child into a new school year without the added stress of adapting to sharing time between parents.
While your decision to obtain a divorce may be out of the question, your child may still want you and his other parent to stay together. This trying-and common-dilemma can potentially lead to animosity between you and your children, but this is not your only option. Unless your child harbors bitterness towards you or your co-parent, he or she likely wants you and your co-parent to work together peacefully. Cooperating with the other parent and taking equal responsibility for your child's life and growth will show your child that you still see him or her as an important, valuable part of your life.
If there's one thing to keep in mind during divorce settlements, it's that much of the process is open to negotiation. As long as you continue to legally and responsibly advocate for yourself, there is a good chance that you will make gains toward more a favorable settlement.
All children deserve love and attention from their parents. Without this, children may struggle to thrive as children and even as adults. Yet, in the throes of divorce, it often becomes difficult for parents to give their children the attention they deserve. Parents may find they are too busy or pre-occupied with mourning the loss of the relationship or fighting the divorce in court to properly care for children.